When things are good, they are really good. Sometimes you can even forget that Bipolar exists in your life because your life is so perfect in these times. You sit and look at your life, forgetting the months of tears and worry.

Sometimes you get yourself into a false sense of security that your partner is so well that nothing could possibly go wrong. Then, one day, you get a reminder that it hasn’t just gone away and your life gets turned upside down once again.

Bipolar is an illness that doesn’t raise its head all the time, it makes some ignorant people say, “its obviously not that bad” or “she’s better now”. People in my family have said that “if you hadn’t told me she has Bipolar we wouldn’t have known”. Aswith any mental illness, it’s hard for people that haven’t experienced it to understand. It’s not visible everyday, it’s not like a broken leg or a bad cut. There are not casts or bandages to make it obvious, but they don’t understand that just because they can’t see it, it’s still there.

In the hard times, you have to remember that it will get better, there will be a time that you are both just lounging on the sofa, laughing at stupid things, watching awful tv and eating all the food you shouldn’t be eating (but that makes it taste so much better!)… the quiet times. You will get there, it may take a few days, a few weeks, maybe even a few months. But the quiet times will come. Remember to cherish them and reenergise yourself ready for the not so quiet times.

I write from the perspective of loving someone with bipolar, but my partner writes from her own perspective of someone who has bipolar. If you want to see our life through her eyes read her blog @bipolarandme.